Story of a lost journalist

November 20, 2008

Truth, an alternative to Lying

Filed under: My Musing Moments — Cris @ 18:45
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I just read from a blog about the courage it takes to be honest. I have been having some thoughts about this. About how, a lot of people have taken to lying so much that it just doesn’t seem to make a moment’s difference.

It surprises me when I see how easy it comes to them, how they don’t have a moment’s hesitation or afterwards a moment’s guilt in lying with a straight face. One thing about being honest was that you didn’t need any doubts about your stand; you could be as loud and as firm as you liked. But that didn’t seem to verify your honesty anymore, considering the liars were just as good. Only place you can expect a difference is when liars forget the lies they once said and later contradict their own stand.

Day 1:

“I have always scored 90 for Math”

Day 29:

“I have always scored 100 for Math”

Day 49 – in a drunken moment

“I just want to pass Math for once in my life buddy sniff sniff sob”

The thing is all this lying is not because people are so bad. Its just that they have somehow gotten used to ejecting a series of small lies to get their way, it didn’t seem to matter anymore. So if you are not allowed at a place cause, say, you needed a condition ‘x’ to be eligible, they don’t see it as an obstacle on the way. To their clear single-direction mind, they wanted entry so they get it, it was not their fault ‘x’ was there in the first place so-

What makes me sad more than the lying itself is the ease with which people do it not feeling a tinge of doubt about its virtue, about their assumption that this was the way of life. For them the question of “Oh what do we do now cause we don’t have it” never arises. They look at others to whom it did, with incomprehensible eyes, eyes that said how can anyone be so slow. To them, it is only a solution everyone will have to arrive at sooner or later, and that for some weird reason, some people were taking time. Truth does not come any different to them, they don’t despise it. Its just that, they use it as an alternative to lying. When you can’t use the truth, you use lies – the logic was simple and its unlearning quite hard to force upon. Especially when the ways of truth promise no easy paths to a glorious life, the way they had it before.

But how did lying become so everybody-does-it? Was there not enough stress on how important it was to stick to the truth anymore? Did no one tell kids that telling the truth even when they did something wrong would actually make room for leniency? Why was it that lying, even if it was for a simple insignificant matter ignored and not corrected? Cause that means a lot. I can say because when I was a kid there were times my Mom told me “See how your brother admitted he did it even though he knew he’d be in trouble” and to me it seemed like something really respectable. Next time when I did something wrong, I’d run to my Mom and proudly announce I did it.

“I sat on that new expensive dining table, and broke it, all by myself” (mm yes, that happened. Hey I just wanted to test it, but err, it was glass).

It started as a funny way to speaking the truth, but once you understand the importance you don’t feel like swaying away – a simple lie could kill you with guilt for days ahead, you’d rather stick with the bitter truth. Cause its so much better to be punished for something you did than getting credit for something you didn’t.

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10 Comments »

  1. Lying grows upon people and eventually it becomes an addiction to the extent where dishonesty becomes an indistinguishable part of the person’s core character.

    Comment by Nish — November 20, 2008 @ 19:51 | Reply

  2. Cris,
    This is a great topic and one can debate till the cows come home! Reminds me of the story about George Washington admitting to cutting the cherry tree.
    I give a lot of blame to Lord Krishna as he is famously quoted in Gita about ‘how means justify ends’. This is conveniently used by a lot of people who doesn’t know anything else from Gita or the context of it.
    I lie a lot in the blog world, like how I comment on your blogs saying how good they are *wink*
    Cheers,
    Salil
    PS : The title is really good, mother promise 🙂

    Comment by Salil — November 21, 2008 @ 06:22 | Reply

  3. Nowadays truth is not that fashionable. Some times parents are guilty of being a bad example. In my professional life as a doc I have lied several times as I posted in ‘ can a doctor lie?”and in my post ‘happy family”. What is your take on that?

    Comment by Charakan — November 21, 2008 @ 10:03 | Reply

  4. Hi Chrissy, Interesting topic. I don’t know how, but i can spot lies easily. Its amazing how smooth some people are when lying. I look at them, their body language, the uneasy easiness with which they deliver these epic tales. Sometimes i just want to shout at them and let them know ‘Hey! I know u r lying.’ But, i don’t believe in embarrassing others in public (unless its really, really, really necessary). Fact is, everybody lies. But if the lies go overboard or build up into something that can hurt someone-there can be serious issues at play there. I remember how my mom used to make me stand in front of the picture of Jesus for about a half an hour if i lied or did something naughty. Now, kids lie with guiltless ease that nobody even cares to correct it. So, to tell the truth or not, ‘that’ is the question!

    Comment by M.Rose — November 22, 2008 @ 01:21 | Reply

  5. Interesting. the lines between honesty and falsehood have remained clear in everybodys conscience although in what people espouse, there seems to be a blurr of convenience !

    And it always is such a let down, to catch somebody you trust being dishonest !

    And you know what..i was a non starter in math ! Thats as honest as i could get !

    Comment by Kavi — November 23, 2008 @ 22:04 | Reply

  6. @Nish, yes I have observed that

    @Salil, LOL. I appreciate the effort 🙂

    @Charakan, will be visiting your blog to read those.

    @M.Rose, really? Most of the liars I have met are so good at it I can never figure it out when they lie. In fact I have taken to never trusting whatever they say unless I have proof.

    @Kavi, hehe thats a good start 🙂

    Comment by Cris — November 24, 2008 @ 12:05 | Reply

  7. i so agree with ur post as well as the comment there that it grows upon people. But most of the times, you get to know that they are lying, and in other cases, they themselves give it away by making contradictory statements later on.. confront them, and they get all defensive!
    what drives me sick is when, people whom you thought you can trust, turn out to be one of them compulsive liars. coz apparently, its an art which CAN be mastered to perfection! 😐

    Comment by usha — November 28, 2008 @ 17:40 | Reply

  8. @Charakan, will read it, I have been a bit behind with blogs!

    @usha, agree one hundred percent to all you said, especially the last 2 lines. You end up hating the whole act more than anything else when you know the taste of it from someone close to you!

    Comment by Cris — December 1, 2008 @ 23:30 | Reply

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