Story of a lost journalist

October 20, 2016

Being an idealist

Filed under: My Musing Moments — Cris @ 02:32

When arguments break out at the office – as offices are supposed to function – I end up getting this one label at the end of it all – idealist. The world I talk of and the arguments I make are too idealistic, not real. The stuff I don’t want, do exist, they say. I still shake my head vehemently – is that the right word? – as if that would make it unreal. Because when you have no more words to make your point, you shake your head. You will not give in.

And then yesterday came and I read this article. It was about a Muslim and a Hindu sharing this apartment together as a kind of social experiment. I read how they were both coming from conventional households, how they are strong believers, and how they had always lived in neighbourhoods where everyone belonged to the same religion. So it took a lot out of them to decide to do this, and it worked. It’s been three years now, says the article. It is on The Wire, if anyone wants to read it.

The point is, I read it and I had to agree here was reality. I couldn’t shake my head at it anymore. At the office when I fight for ‘all is one’, and there shouldn’t be anything separating man from man, I get “but it is there. It is actually there.” My wanting it is not going to make it happen. So, very reluctantly, I am trying to see religion as a reality. Even as I type this, I have a finger twitching towards the backspace button. Maybe if I just pressed harder, it can still go away. I really don’t want it to enter my mind, my thoughts. But then idealism is only so good, it can’t make things happen. It’s just a happy belief that will make you feel good. Or is it?

I am trying to picture religion as a philosophy. People could have different philosophies. Or ideas. Or opinions. Say, take a movie. I could believe it is good, my neighbour could believe it is not. So this is about people liking different things. Some like one religion, some like another. That could happen. People are not the same, they are equal. Problem is the other differences do not separate them. They don’t turn people into “you” and “us”. Those differences come only in a few conversations, forgotten about at the end of it. But differences of faith linger. Putting people into brackets, as soon as a name is heard. And my mind will not allow that. I refuse to agree they exist. Because if I could shove those away, so can everyone. If I don’t think of a person by person’s religion or caste, it means that it’s possible to do that. You can just think of the person for what person is, without brackets. Out in the air, out in the open, free.

And if it is possible for one, it is possible for all. One day the brackets may stop to exist only because we refused to accept they are real. Idealism may still have a chance.



  1. Loved it : ) . I try not to be idealistic if I can. It only has any effect if people you are interacting with have that open minded nature to listen to something, think it over logically and then react. Most often they just dismiss ideas without a second thought. I think there are many who cannot tolerate thinking that some of the most basic things that they have come to believe from the childhood could be wrong or, lets say, ‘not okay’. Best example is god. A large majority can’t think of life without god. They think its wrong to even think in those terms. So even though I would love to discuss these with many of my friends and relatives, I usually refrain from doing that. May be I will do it the day I no longer care about what they think or anyone else thinks. A free soul! Sigh…

    You should read up on topics like quantum physics(the philosophical observations and inferences part), schrodinger’s cat, beginning of universe, causality etc. Very amusing stuff! 🙂

    Comment by iamworthatry — December 20, 2016 @ 21:43 | Reply

    • Thank you, iamworthy :-). You are right, people shrug away any idea they are not used to. How many times do we hear the ‘nothing will change’ comment when we try start somewhere. The idea is to keep going, though. Cause once you give up, you become one of them, one of the nothing-will-change people.

      Comment by Cris — January 5, 2017 @ 02:19 | Reply

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