Story of a lost journalist

June 19, 2012

Being a manly girl :-)

Filed under: tag — Cris @ 16:57

Long long long ago, Dhanya had passed on a tag to me. It was something about doing things your gender “is not supposed to do”. This was her entry –

I was, like most girls, a typical tomboy in my early teens. There was a time I refused to wear earings, and mom had to drag in grandparents to convince me to keep the hole in my ear alive. I carried men’s handkerchiefs, umbrellas – and kicked stones on the road. Well, most of it is ‘was’.

Another phase came in my early 20s when wearing a lot of pink gave me the tag of a ‘typical girl’. Let’s see, now what do I do that’s considered ‘unwomanly’

1. I hardly use a comb. Not cause I don’t care what my hair looks like, I seem to think it is most beautifully curly when left uncombed.

2. I hear most of my girlfriends say they lose a lot of time deciding what to wear every morning. I take the first thing I see and mom complains I always end up wearing the same thing on and on.

3. I hate gold. And I forget to wear earings most days. I am mostly ornamentless.

4. Hate gossip. Long ago, whenever my friends used to talk about “those two being an item” I would say you never know from what you see, they could be just friends. So they’d say “There goes a couple of Cris’s friends”

5. I hate speaking like a child. In Malayalam we call this ‘konchal’. Many grownup women, I have observed, have this annoying habit of speaking “sweetly”. I believe it works as a turn on for men.

6. Hate appearing helpless and over-dependant for every little thing. They need an escort to cross the road! Err I say ‘they’ as if I don’t belong to that gender. I mean, some of them – which sort of form a majority.

7. This is not something I am proud of – but I don’t cook

8. Totally disorganized and messy (it’s such fun listing it here, suggesting all these qualities by default belong to men). I leave my desk, my bed and my room all messy. My girlfriends and mom try each time to bring some neatness around. I leave wet clothes on the bed – that, I hear is very manly 😀

9. I don’t use the c-word. Mm ok here goes: c-u-t-e. Also don’t use the s word. S-w-e-e-t. Especially ‘so c-word’ and ‘so s-word’. Not the puppies on the road, neither the babies. But I do love kids. Oh I also don’t use ‘miss you’s much.

10. I don’t notice what others wear. So everytime my mom or a friend comes and asks ‘so how is it’ I have no idea what they are talking about. I have also managed to call several of my mom’s oldest clothes brand new.

I think I will list some stuff that’s typically womanly too.

1. I love pink!

2. I carry a lot of ‘girly’ stuff like teddy bear bags and flowers on head

3. I like being expressive, yell ‘wee’ when I am excited and mope pretty obviously when I am down. Men, I hear, are not good with emotions.

4. I love dresses and skirts and lots of kohl on my eyes

5. I love giving cris-only nicknames to friends, which make them mine.

6. I love six. How is that womanly? Well women are accused of liking things that other people didn’t even think existed



  1. At first, when your Unwomanly Traits List extended till 10, it felt, you had left your unexplainable obsession with Six. Just to be proved wrong..

    But, I suspect foul play. You Purposefully Stopped your Womanly Traits list at six. There are quite a few things more, like……..
    How about you shrieking, bringing the whole House/Restaurant down, when you see cockroaches, and start screaming the Cris-only nickname for them. (Most of the Cockroaches develop Posttraumatic stress disorder for life, from that Shriek.)

    Comment by Blungi — June 19, 2012 @ 18:43 | Reply

    • Blungi: That is covered in point 3 – when I said I am expressive. The ‘wee’ sound of excitement would pretty much specify it, I should say. The tag was to list 10 points, so I had to bring in a 6 somewhere 🙂

      Comment by Cris — June 19, 2012 @ 22:52 | Reply

  2. you are a phenomenal girl! love you:-)

    Comment by denny — June 19, 2012 @ 19:33 | Reply

    • Thanks Denny :-). I see you are an expressive man.

      Comment by Cris — June 19, 2012 @ 22:52 | Reply

  3. I’m so into 1 too.. i like the unkempt look. its just too convenient for lazy people like me.. though you cant really call it a man thing these days.. they are soo into big time grooming n all these days..

    I gave up when one of my guy friends actually suggested some face scrub and under eye cream for me. with brand names n all. he claimed his Dad mails him ayurvedic haircare n skincare stuff from baba ramdev’s dispensary. I almost fainted. He stands de-friend-ed 😀

    I dunno, going by the stereotyped standards, I’m too girly at some things, and so not girly at others. and the stereotypes themselves are changing so fast, for better than for worse, i think.. 🙂

    Comment by ushadhanraj — June 23, 2012 @ 01:49 | Reply

    • @Usha same story here. Men friends surprise me too with their recommendations and beauty tips! I suppose nothing can be called a male or female trait anymore!

      Comment by Cris — June 24, 2012 @ 13:26 | Reply

  4. I stumbled upon your blog today and I don’t regret it one bit. Such a refreshing read 🙂 I just finished reading this book called Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides recently. There is this sentence in the book which I’d like to share with you now. It was an epiphany for me- “Sex is biological whereas gender is cultural.” Yes, it does sound weird when I put it like that. Read the book is all I will say for now. Good writing Cris!!! 🙂

    Comment by DR — June 27, 2012 @ 10:23 | Reply

    • Thank you DR for stumbling upon the blog, and better still for not regretting it :-). Let me try get that book. That line does make sense 🙂

      Comment by Cris — July 1, 2012 @ 13:39 | Reply

  5. Thank you for taking this up I can very well identify with most of them and very strongly with 2 and 10 My friends tell me I am a robot just programmed to do what it’s asked to do n totally disconnected with everything else in the world esp all things girly!!
    n u seem to be a regular here tho I had this illusion that all my fellow bloggers have stopped writing just like me 😉 So looks like lots of catching up to do..

    Comment by cmdhanya — July 1, 2012 @ 23:02 | Reply

    • Hey Dan, yes yes, other bloggers have a life :D. I have a blog!

      Comment by Cris — July 10, 2012 @ 03:07 | Reply

  6. Crissie, you missed one of the biggest proof that you have strong feminine traits: You have no direction sense!! 😀

    Comment by frmneo999 — July 13, 2012 @ 09:13 | Reply

    • That is not a feminine trait. That is the sign of extreme intelligence. Einstein had it too!

      Comment by Cris — July 13, 2012 @ 16:47 | Reply

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