Story of a lost journalist

May 1, 2010


Filed under: Personal — Cris @ 23:57

I seriously have a problem with phones. Almost all the people I know would vouch for me on this. The never-picker Cris. Partly, yes, because I actually miss, but partly, cause I like to stay from it as much as possible. I do not like talking in phone. It is a complete contrast to my school days when my best friend Ros and I would be hung up on phone for hours. College too. Those were the days of land phones and a hard stare from one of those bill-paying parents ended our blab for the day.

But those treacherous nasty little creatures called mobile phones landed on earth and ruined my life. It made me a phone-hater. I hereby declare that the mobile phone is fully and completely responsible for any anti-phone attack I practise. It is all his fault (such a huge troublemaker has gotta be a ‘he’).

So dear friends, trivandrumites, worldhumans (I still believe in the one-world-for-all rule), if I dont pick up your calls, please direct all your curses and shuns on that little device called a cell phone. I get unpredictably uncomfortable when it rings and sticks to my ears. Talking for me is a huge effort. I keep saying I am a writer not a talker. Yes my job needs talking. But that is different. It is strictly business – you talk and ask what you need to talk and ask. End of job. But no casual and friendly follow ups puleese.

Sheesh I really sound like a – hmm anti-social? What do you call such people? Not introverts – ye I am that too. But this is not about not having the ability (ahem). This is about not having the interest.

So as I was saying, friends and more friends, let me recommend you to put on hold all ministrations on murder (as some have threatened me with), swearing (as some have already put into practice), and any sort of ill-feeling. I am just not a phone person. Consider it – I find it hard to say this – my handicap (ouch that hurts).


  1. Dear journalost:

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    Leora Trub, M.A.
    Doctoral student in Clinical Psychology
    Graduate School of the City University of New York
    365 Fifth Avenue, New York, NY 10016-4309

    Comment by Leora — May 2, 2010 @ 04:37 | Reply

  2. welcome to the club .

    Comment by muralee maadhav — May 2, 2010 @ 06:49 | Reply

  3. athonumalla kaaryam…ithinte bill you have to pay yourself! šŸ˜‰

    Comment by Don — May 2, 2010 @ 07:30 | Reply

    • @Don: that was supposed to be confidential!

      Comment by Cris — May 2, 2010 @ 11:40 | Reply

  4. somehow I feel like agreeing to Don’s comment! šŸ™‚

    Comment by Anand — May 2, 2010 @ 18:22 | Reply

  5. You are preaching to the choir here – šŸ™‚

    Comment by Binny V A — May 2, 2010 @ 22:01 | Reply

  6. well, I remember reading somewhere that a ringing phone is a request to pick it up, and not an order.
    I like that line šŸ™‚

    Comment by usha — May 6, 2010 @ 02:14 | Reply

  7. I register my strong voice of protest and condemn this post. All the times i called you, i cudn’t get to you because you were mostly on call waiting!! I vehemently reject your claim of not being a phone person.

    inquilab zindabad!!

    Comment by Syam Nath S — May 10, 2010 @ 01:50 | Reply

  8. Your phone service provider message “The Customer you are trying to reach is currently.. is currently.. is currently.. beep.. beep.. beep..”

    Comment by Javed Miandad — November 22, 2010 @ 00:11 | Reply

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