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December 27, 2008

No ‘you’ and ‘me’ please, just ‘us’

Filed under: life,My Musing Moments — Cris @ 12:11
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There is this thing that bugs me. Its when people say to people “Hey its Christmas. You ‘Christians’ have got to treat us”. Or else they say “Hey its Ramzan you Muslims should fund the party” and Dasara time its got to be ‘the Hindus’ who take turns. It bugs me to the core whenever someone cracks things like that. And I hear it a lot.

“Hey I don’t know how its done for you Christians but we do it this way”. Blah, blah and blah! 

This kind of “you” and “us” attitude is awful. Ok so people may follow different religions – but that was no reason to come out with “you are different from us” attitude! If anyone wants to celebrate Christmas or Ramzan or Holi its got to be a we-will-do-it-together thing. It is so much more- lovely, so much more human… Cause dig this – the “yous” and the “wes” are all humans! 

Ok I am probably overreacting. But it was Christmas a couple of days ago and I knew people who would only wish “Happy New Year” cause they thought the “Merry Christmas” was not meant for everyone. And there are some who just joke about it but don’t really “mean” it. Still it bugs me that they take into consideration who were from what religion and then crack these “its only you who has to treat” jokes. Wonder when humans will get that gift – of being able to see humans as humans. 

I believe all celebrations have just one purpose – having fun together. And together was the keyword here.


  1. good writing,but since we all are indians,especially keralites, i think the word “together” will remain as a word..,..,..

    Comment by karthik — December 27, 2008 @ 12:56 | Reply

  2. @karthik, thanks but I didnt get it? What has being Indians and Keralites got to do with it? You mean things will never change in our country?

    Comment by Cris — December 27, 2008 @ 13:21 | Reply

  3. What a wonderful thought ! And meaning and message too. I wish this feeling of oneness permeates all across. May everybody understand this…

    At a very pedantic level, just think of the number of celebrations each family will have !!
    Lovely post !

    Comment by Kavi — December 27, 2008 @ 14:49 | Reply

  4. I agree, festivals are for everyone, they should unify rather than divide.
    I remember one Christmas when we were kids, one family friend thought he’d reached the wrong house when he saw the Christmas star and the tree:)

    Comment by nithin — December 27, 2008 @ 16:23 | Reply

  5. @Kavi, yes thats the idea… Am glad you find some meaning in it. I wish everyone did!

    @nithin, thats wonderful! Hope it helps to spread a greater message..

    Comment by Cris — December 30, 2008 @ 14:03 | Reply

  6. Hi dear, Belated X’mas Wishes!! Was busy,going to get busier still. I don’t know how strong the ‘you people’ ‘us’ feeling is there for you. But i never encountered this discrimination (much, anyway). Here, any kind of celebration is a celebration for all. All join in & of course, its ‘fun’. Whenever the whole ‘you people’ stuff arises, its becoz, we don’t know what entails the customs of that particular group. Suppose, its Ramadan, our Muslim friends bring us stuff (ahem! FOOD!! :-B ) made by their family and we have a jolly good time. I hope you understand my drift. If its celebrated with an open heart, nothing can go wrong. But, if, like you said, its being hammered on to different compartments, that’s sad and no fun at all.

    Comment by M.Rose — December 31, 2008 @ 00:23 | Reply

  7. @M.Rose, wow where do you live anyway?! I mean do these things actually happen in Trivandrum? Anyway people brining food on their own accord is not bad at all! I just dont like it when others put it like “its your festival so you do it”!

    Comment by Cris — January 2, 2009 @ 21:55 | Reply

  8. hope you had a happy happy christmas time, girl!

    n i know what you are talking about.. surprisingly, this time around not a single soul bugged me with that questions.. probably all the buggers were on a vacation or mebbe its out of fashion this season or something! 😛 We just cooked and had a friend come over to join us for lunch.. ermm.. and God bless her soul! 😀

    Comment by usha — January 6, 2009 @ 18:49 | Reply

  9. @usha, thats great! Looks like you had a great Christmas. I spent the day drinking wine, sporting a Santa cap and singing carols at the top of my voice!

    Comment by Cris — January 8, 2009 @ 15:36 | Reply

  10. I am grateful to my parents for bringing me up as me rather than making me a Hindu Or Muslim. That gave me the sight and insight to see the world belongs to Humans. Many has had their share of fun calling me a ‘cross breed’. Growing up, I was becoming more and more happy that no religion has ever blindfolded me or built a wall of discrimination around my heart and thoughts.

    I had a lovely Christmas… No Doubt.. Someone made it so wonderful…

    Comment by Javed Miandad — January 19, 2012 @ 03:15 | Reply

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