Story of a lost journalist

October 25, 2008

Problems are a new world, suicide not its exit

Filed under: life,My Musing Moments — Cris @ 02:00
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When you are born you don’t have a reason to live – you don’t think if life is worth living. You don’t know anyone or anything and you go on to live. You learn to like the world, the people. When you go to school you are entering another new world – you don’t know what you will face there. And yet you go on to live. You go on to make friends, relationships.

Life would always put you in new worlds. Totally unfamiliar to you, totally new to you that it scares you to the core. Your problems are another such world. You are scared by it. Same way you were scared to enter the world (you might not have been, am not yet sure what babies have in mind when they are born – but all that crying cant definitely mean a happy thought), same way you were scared to go to school. Your problem is just another new world, a way out of which you may not be able to find immediately. But then why if you didn’t end your life, when you entered the world, when you entered your school, should you end it now? You should go on to live. That’s why you were born.

Explanation on why this entry: I just read Seema’s post on suicides and after commenting there, I wanted to write more. Not wanting to take up all of her comment-space I thought I will put it here.

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18 Comments »

  1. We will always face new worlds. Change…that’s what life is. Life has to go through changes. Its inevitable. When we are young, we may not know what to do in these new worlds, but we still power through it. Its human nature. But sometimes, people can lose track, become confused. They want an easy release from the pain.Suicide. Its misguided for sure. But instead of berating them, just think– what kind of hell/desperation that person must have been in to do this atrocious act, even if it may be fleeting. We should give that person our sympathy, instead of condemning them to the pits of hell. Live,live as long as u can. My motto-Take life as it comes!!

    Comment by M.Rose — October 25, 2008 @ 02:50 | Reply

  2. True.Each friend you have was once a stranger. But ones driven to suicide it is because its the ultimate step–they are desperate. But more than anything else, they feel they are alone.

    Comment by Ps — October 25, 2008 @ 07:37 | Reply

  3. @M.Rose, I wasnt berating them, I just think that it is one of the dumbest things people could do to themselves. That time will certainly make things less heavy, if not better. Every one of us goes through a phase where we feel we cant handle it anymore, take the easy way out. I just wanted to point out and convince how entirely wrong the attitude was – cause it is a spur-of-the-moment insipience. We will get out of it. And even if things remain just as bad, I would still say killing yourself is never the answer, you are depriving yourself of the one chance you could experience something as amazing as life, you are being selfish taking yourself away from what you cant stand, leaving possibly worried dear ones bereaved.

    @Ps, yes and most of us go through that feeling. But one, that could be a temporary bad moment, or phase. For another, you are not giving yourself a chance to make your life better or your loneliness disappear, by depriving yourself the only way to find that out. I strongly believe however bad paths life takes you through, you have to stay till the end, till the very last point. Cause life was such a chanced happening, you were so lucky to have got one.

    Comment by Cris — October 25, 2008 @ 22:17 | Reply

  4. a very positive post – laudable sentiments

    Comment by kochuthresiamma p j — October 26, 2008 @ 02:09 | Reply

  5. nice thought dear.

    Comment by Smitha — October 26, 2008 @ 07:38 | Reply

  6. No, No. Of course i got that u weren’t berating them. But there are people who do. I just put in my two cents(two paisas???) to let them know, is all. Suicide is ‘never’ the answer. I do not accept it either. In fact, I’m against it. Those who commit suicide or are suicidal-just imagine the mental confusion & depression they must be going through. Many of us never even remotely has that problem. If these people have somebody to talk to or guide, they can definitely be brought back to a path of hope. We always talk bout the other factors-selfishness, what it can do to the family, escapism, wrong way of thinking. But we never analyze the ‘why’. I just wanted to look at this from another point of view, that all- not support it in any way.

    Comment by M.Rose — October 27, 2008 @ 00:25 | Reply

  7. Good post Cris. I agree with Rose. Let us respect their feelings. We all go through minor reactive depression which may have a trigger. But many who go thru major depression need not have any obvious reason. They cannot control their thoughts and needs outside help.

    Comment by Charakan — October 27, 2008 @ 13:40 | Reply

  8. sometimes I guess it’s better to learn to give up.
    To give up on smaller things n not bother about what the whole world will think of u.. rather than fighting hard to put up with all then and then giving up on one’s own life in the end.

    I’ve been thinking about this thing of ‘giving up’ since a while.. prbbly shud write about it.

    Comment by usha — October 27, 2008 @ 15:29 | Reply

  9. @KT, thanks!

    @M.Rose, mm I understand. Yes, given the circumstances none of us are immune to that thought, but I hope it remains just that – a thought not put to action.

    @Charakan, yes, I hope there was a way for them to find help, or help find them at the right time

    @usha, very good point. Yes thats where many people cant seem to face the world – having to give up.. that somehow gives them the I-am-a-failure-good-for-nothing feeling. I am not blaming them… things could be easier if the world around you and the people close to you treated you with respect, despite your bad dealings.

    Comment by Cris — October 27, 2008 @ 16:56 | Reply

  10. See this post for more information http://malayalidoc.blogspot.com/2008/10/how-to-know-when-you-have-major.html

    Comment by Charakan — October 28, 2008 @ 00:53 | Reply

  11. Great post as usual Cris.. Very positive.. Its just that when you see such individual, just a little push in the right direction might help.. Sometime all they need is an ear to hear.

    Comment by Seema — October 28, 2008 @ 01:05 | Reply

  12. […] time to read two other brilliant posts by Charakan (who has put together some helpful tips) and Chris (short and sweet postive […]

    Pingback by Casualties of Life « Apostrophic Metis — October 29, 2008 @ 06:26 | Reply

  13. @Charakan, thats quite some post! Glad you took the time

    @Seema, quite true, problem is we miss the obvious signs of depression, fail to accept that someone here was so miserable that he/she was planning to end life.

    Comment by Cris — October 29, 2008 @ 11:53 | Reply

  14. It must be really difficult to get out of depression without proper understanding and support from family and friends. All we can do is keep our eyes and ears open so that we are ready to give solace to a friend or relative on the verge of a breakdown…

    Comment by Novice Writer — October 31, 2008 @ 17:36 | Reply

  15. @NW, true but that is sometimes the hardest thing to do. A person in misery seldom listens to any kind of reason. I believe professional help would be the right cure.

    Comment by Cris — November 1, 2008 @ 03:57 | Reply

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  17. Hm! You’ve read Divine Intervention, no? 😦

    Sometimes it’s hard to choose between life and self-inflicted death. In moments of acute pain, the mind snaps and untowards stuff happens!

    Comment by Hari Shanker — November 8, 2008 @ 02:06 | Reply

  18. @Hari, I understand. Been there too. Hmm every person needs attention, the well and the unwell there is no knowing when the mind takes a twist to the other direction!

    Comment by Cris — November 10, 2008 @ 22:03 | Reply


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