Story of a lost journalist

August 25, 2008

The art of talking

Filed under: My Musing Moments,Theory — Cris @ 22:33
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Yesterday a chat friend (CF) I have chatted with for 2 or 3 years now made a call. This is how the conversation started:
CF: Hello
CF: Hello
CF: Hello
Me: Gum – attempt at hello

So I am not a talks-person, I am more of a write-type person – grammatically horrendous statement. But years of saying “gum” to people had convinced me that it will do the world and me a lot of good if I just stuck to typing my hellos. Leave the talking to the rest of the world.

But interestingly and surprisingly, my critics had to wonder, if in the act of writing me off as far as the spoken language was concerned, they had been too rash. For speak I did. CF though had to employ his ears to the best of their purpose, soon found it hard to get a word out in between the outflow of words proceeding from Ms Gum-Greeter. Any audience, if present, would have suspected an impersonation taking effect.

After the call though, strong analysis of the matter revealed the following
1. Talking was an art no doubt, but it was not always an impossible feat. The people who said gum in place of hello and gulp in place of howdy did so only to people who brought with them an image of human biters. This is what led to the foundation of what is popularly known as a comfort zone. Some people fell into this zone with the grace of a, err, graceful faller. Point is it is easy to talk to some people even if it is for the first time. Whereas with certain others, no matter how much you talk, you still find the same burning desire to jump up and run for the nearest exit. Everybody has their comfort zones. For me, if Scooby Doo fell into the comfort zone, for Watson it was probably Holmes.

2. And the strain is off once you have exposed your innermost identity. In the words of Ms CC, “You know it’s a relief when a person completely knows what kind of an utter idiot you are and still like you. I mean you don’t have to worry about losing anything anymore”

So that’s that. Effective from yesterday I have resigned from the anti-verbalization club.



  1. You really depict human emotions well! so true!
    I hope your CF reads this article and understands that you wanted to say Helloo! 🙂

    Comment by sajith — August 25, 2008 @ 23:11 | Reply

  2. @Sajith, after 1 hour of not letting him talk while I driveled without a break, I am sure he understood that little point 🙂

    Comment by Cris — August 26, 2008 @ 03:16 | Reply

  3. A nice way of explaining the concept of comfort zone. I m glad you appreciate the art of talking. If it wasnt to talk, Mr. Misunderstood would always remain misunderstood 😦

    Comment by Mr.Misunderstood — August 26, 2008 @ 13:02 | Reply

  4. Talking is an art?
    😛 Lucky that you didnt come for blogcamp! 😀 lol!

    Comment by Srijith — August 26, 2008 @ 20:29 | Reply

  5. Yeh I agree 100 %
    Now a days although I chat a lot with ppl when it comes to talking, I’m still the silent lamb 😦

    Comment by Dhanya — August 26, 2008 @ 21:00 | Reply

  6. Its so true what u said bout talking being easy with some strangers and not easy with some others. I think its a certain vibe that people have, a kind of connection(yeah, i know i’m not makin’ any sense!!By the way Chrissie, was freakin’ busy what with my bro getting married in 2 weeks. Still going to get busier! Egad!!)
    I find it easier to talk to some strangers, while with others, there’s just deafening silence and i can almost hear crickets chirping in the background.
    Its not that i’m a big talker, but i try. If i find a vibe with the person, i’ll have the gud luck to make a temporary friend, If not,i just go on admiring the surroundings like an art connoisseur.

    Comment by M.Rose — August 27, 2008 @ 00:40 | Reply

  7. am another of the poor talker…it works mostly by intution with whom i can comfortably talk to…i think the point is being a good talker as well as a good listener at the same time..

    Comment by mathew — August 27, 2008 @ 11:33 | Reply

  8. @Mr.Misunderstood, haha thats a good point :-). But on the contrary many misunderstandings have arose from just that – talking.

    @Srijith, the blogcamp was full of talkers??

    @Dhanya, exactly my problem!

    @M.Rose, yeah there probably is, the vibes I mean. But you see silence is not a problem as long as it doesnt look odd and you feel the tension increasing. With the comfort zone guys, silence seems as natural as talking. Oh well. Aha, congratulations to bro! Been wondering about your prolonged absence! Welcome back 🙂 Nice come-back poem on your blog.

    @mathew, intution? Hmm wish I had that. My point is good talker-listener qualities do not work with everyone. Like even if you could listen to some people (cause they are natural talkers), you may find it hard to talk back.

    Comment by Cris — August 27, 2008 @ 12:58 | Reply

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  10. Hi Cris,
    The google ads on this post are all on – guess what – speech therapy 🙂
    But honestly, we readers don’t care as long as you can write so well!

    Comment by Salil — September 15, 2008 @ 08:27 | Reply

  11. @Salil, thank you! That was very encouraging 🙂

    Comment by Cris — September 15, 2008 @ 18:38 | Reply

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