Story of a lost journalist

August 10, 2008

Non-living friends: nothing abnormal about it

Filed under: life,Theory — Cris @ 22:36
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There is a movie of Tom Hanks. Cast Away. I haven’t watched it but heard the story. Bringing that up cause it has got a volley ball. Yeah like that’s the best reason for someone to blog. You see Tom Hanks talks to this volley ball. Aha always knew ol’ Tom was losing something – his head. He is stranded in this island somewhere for years and only has the ball to keep him company. Name, Wilson. Not Hanks’s. I meant the volley ball.

Some people may sometimes for some unknown reason be attached to mm, things. My favorite word, things – fits into any place. Other than human beings. Some people have their pet animals. Some have their garden of flowers. Some have their book collection or some other collection. Second to ‘things’, ‘other’ – always handy. Whatever. You guessed right, yup it’s the third. And then some people like Tom Hanks have things with faces. (He draws a face on the ball). Faces which are not in the habit of inhaling oxygen. Cause oxygen undoubtedly calls for bad reputation. Those that never change expressions.

Everybody knows the story of Pinocchio. Loneliness, or friendlessness may lead to such ‘unusual’ associations and attachments. But then I argue absolutely normal people could have a non-responsive companion. Ok no more paradoxes, we are in for serious talk now. What they imagine these associates talk or do is another story. But what I feel bad about it is that people simply find it amusing or silly or absolute nonsense. Ok if they fail to understand the sentiment behind these affections, what is the need to bring those hapless souls to the centre of tease-land? Why can’t they leave that part of their life alone? It is, without argument, most personal. Dragging it into public in itself could be bad, but taking it up as a subject to laugh at is simply sadistic.

I have observed that many people fail to understand the importance one may give to his personal properties. To most people, only what they see important could be perceived in the limelight. Others are just silly fools who spoke too much, pay no attention to it – probably their favorite line. Human beings are well, if not anything else, weird. As has been argued for years, normalcy is always subjective. If one day the world became full of people who thought sleeping in daytime and working at night is the way to live life, who could argue that’s abnormal?

Of course all this outburst is obviously because I find people almost always laughing behind and most of the times right in front of me at my obsession with, hmm, certain possessions. But I am not saying this to prove a personal point. I think it is important that people respect other people’s whims and just leave them alone with it. If they find it an act of abnormality or outright farce, well they shouldn’t have been poking their nose into the other person’s personal affairs in the first place! Eavesdropping should be punishable! Anyway just want to conclude that affection is a human quality, and it is also a most incomprehensible quality – sometimes you give it when you expect something in return, otherwise you still give it expecting something in return although not always in the same terms. Meaning you expect some sort of satisfaction, if not affection itself, for your sake.



  1. Was wondering what the theme was seeing the topic ‘friends’ and ‘non living’ -:)
    Well written! what you said is indeed very true; but it is not just limited to personal possessions or things which could be dear or have a special meaning for the concerned person……The basic courtesy in a human being to behave well with everyone, avoid hurting others; avoid poking embarrassing comments or jokes is forgotten often -:(

    Comment by sajith — August 11, 2008 @ 20:34 | Reply

  2. Well written 🙂

    Comment by Gov — August 12, 2008 @ 10:29 | Reply

  3. -‘normalcy is subjective’
    teehee.. u said it!! 🙂

    btw, Im one of those beings who cried watching that volleyball being washed away in the movie!
    n yeah, I believe keeping such ‘affinity to non-living objects’ private is a good idea. That’s one of the reasons I don’t keep any girlie stuff at my desk at work. not that I care much for what they’d say.. still.
    the only one I have at my desk is again a smiley face on a papercup. And that’s because I needed it soo soo soo badly then.
    you can find her here:
    isn’t she gorgeous? 🙂

    Comment by usha — August 12, 2008 @ 14:49 | Reply

  4. Come to think of it, is any body in the world normal. I must be certainly abnormal to start writing this way, for one. Everybody has their own quirks and weird ‘stuff’ that they carry with them , be it an actual physical object or a secret imaginary friend. i bet, even the ones who tease have their own little wacko ‘stuff’.
    Have you ever thought what kind of a world clinically mad people live in? How different are they from us? DO they actually see the world they see? Come to think of it,what’s the difference between mad people and the rest of the world(not clinically,of course)The rest of the world is as mad as they are, don’t u think?
    (kurachu kaadu kayari poyyi with the whole mad people philosophy, sorry!)

    Comment by M.Rose — August 12, 2008 @ 21:57 | Reply

  5. no need to be aplegeic abt non-livng friends- i kow a person who hd to ak traquiliers to sleep afte his car fo 15 years was sold.
    sometimes nonliving things have sentimntal value. u’ll be amazed at the junk collection i have which belng to the second category i mentioned above.
    most normal to have non-living friends

    Comment by kochuthresiamma P J — August 12, 2008 @ 22:23 | Reply

  6. @sajith, Sad part is the teasers most of the times do not realize they are doing any harm. Like I say they fail to understand anyone’s feelings behind things they see “insignificant”

    @Gov, thanks 🙂 I think it was you who told me about the Tom Hanks movie

    @usha, hey she looks good. By the way you shouldnt call them girly. I prefer to call them companions.

    @M.Rose, hehe yeah. Well madness is again a relative concept

    @kochuthresiamma, thanks 🙂 Thats what I think too. Most normal.

    Comment by Cris — August 15, 2008 @ 22:57 | Reply

  7. Graet post mate. Keep them coming….

    Comment by Natalie — October 31, 2008 @ 19:06 | Reply

  8. @Natalie, thank you

    Comment by Cris — November 1, 2008 @ 03:57 | Reply

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