Story of a lost journalist

July 25, 2008

Why can’t old people have fun?

Filed under: life,My Musing Moments — Cris @ 23:27
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Where I come from, this line is heard quite a lot. “Vayassayal mindathe oruconilu naamam japichirkyan paadille?” – Translates to Cant you sit in one corner and recite your prayers when you are old. I never paid attention to these lines because they were mostly in movies or novels and it somehow never reached out to me. But now that I have started seeing it in real life, it’s a lot different.

I believe life is just one and years not too many. Things that never fail to irk me are another person trying to decide the way you live. So what if an old person wants to travel a lot? What if he/she wants to talk loud and laugh? What if they want to sing/dance or do whatever they want? Its their life and they do it. Just because they parented and grandparented to bring future generation to the world doesn’t mean they have to submit theirs to anything/anyone.

True, you are not 10 when you are 70. You can’t afford to do many things you did all those decades ago. But unable to do is different from disallowed to. Heck if you could do things as you pleased when you were 25, you might as well do in 75! If you want to climb Mount Everest do it! Wasn’t it a couple of months back the oldest climber to Mt Everest set himself that record? And a lady of 90-something became the oldest blogger some time ago. Chances are this is now beaten by 100-something year olds.

Life is not an extended piece of elastic you could stretch to infinity. Sooner or later each and every one would reach there – the end. So leave old people alone. They have lived so far, so they know how to take it on. I consider life precious, the simple fact that the biological process making it happen is so complicated. You are lucky you got through all that and finally landed here. You could do so many things in so little time, best of all being your ability to think and do. Each second upto the very last breathe was important. No one should be allowed to tamper with that.



  1. Ohh! So you managed to post one for yesterday! 😉

    I agree with your views. But my little wish is to die when I’m 60. I hate old age! I mean , my Old Age!

    Comment by Srijith — July 26, 2008 @ 15:33 | Reply

  2. yes..quite true..i think we psychologically tune ourselves to believe that old people should stay put with evening coffee and religious books…You cant beat the age but you could still be young!!

    Comment by mathew — July 26, 2008 @ 18:55 | Reply

  3. This is something i’ve heard a lot in movies but i know that the same happens in real life too. I think life has become too hectic for the middle-aged and for us indians, to leave our elderly in an old-age home is a big no-no for our status quo(pish!). It just isn’t done(what will the neighbours or relatives say). So they take out their frustrations on the elderly and in a way let them know with “Cant you sit in one corner and recite your prayers when you are old?” that they don’t really want them there. Its really sad to see this coz’ its becoz of the parents that the children has reached thus far. I say, rock on, all u granpas & granmas out there. Don’t let anybody tell u what u should do or shouldn’t do. Good post dear! Something that everyone misses.

    Comment by M.Rose — July 27, 2008 @ 00:34 | Reply

  4. Earlier,i used to wish I died early..But now i dn’t wanna die..I wanna live for my baby and husband..They’ll be alone if I die:-)
    I also wanna live until my husband is alive otherwise,he’ll feel lonely.When old,only husband and wife hold hands each other..Not even kids will give you a hand:)

    Comment by Nimmy — July 27, 2008 @ 11:26 | Reply

  5. I guess its more of a social phenomenon, the concept getting stronger though messages conveyed repeatedly through movies and serials. Not so long ago, our old-aged folks used to work hard in fields till withering point, and then the family used to take care… The malayalam scriptwriters of today have conditioned us for the past few decades via neuro-linguistic-programming (NLP), and it has worked well, that we have started blindly believing that old age is to just sit around the corner chanting prayers, and not living fully as allowed by your body 🙂

    Surprisingly, the rest of the world doesn’t agree much to that concept, their scriptwriters are alien to these ideas, and even at an age of 80, westerners drive their cars, walk around in parks holding hands, work in restaurants, do their day-to-day shopping, earn a living, and give gifts to their grandchildren with their own money!

    @Nimmy, that was cute 🙂

    Comment by Tedy Kanjirathinkal — July 27, 2008 @ 16:49 | Reply

  6. @Srijith, I share your feeling. I am already feeling old in 20s I dont know how I can deal with actual old age

    @mathew, exactly, young at heart like they say.

    @M.Rose, yeah but people who leave parents at old age homes are not ones who are so daring, they take that step cause they are not bothered to care. Either way its all sad

    @Nimmy, that was nice dear 🙂

    @Tedy, in Kerala too people are quite active in their 80s and 90s in this field they call politics :-D. Other people who’d feel the enery and wish to be active, are sometimes unfairly restricted by these baseless conventions forced upon them

    Comment by Cris — July 28, 2008 @ 14:06 | Reply

  7. It’s true that old people are often considered as liabilities. Maybe the so-called refined upper class treats them in a better way. Either out of affection or may be the politic ways that the society has taught them. But they stop there – being affectionate and talking politely is good but old people deserve much more than that. Don’t they? I think most of us (including me) fail to understand their feelings, wishes and take them for granted most of the time. Guess we won’t realize it until we grow old enough…
    Anyways nice post … with a message 🙂

    Comment by rose — July 29, 2008 @ 22:04 | Reply

  8. @rose, yes its like they are taken for granted to be not meant for having fun. Sad!

    Comment by Cris — July 30, 2008 @ 01:07 | Reply

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