Story of a lost journalist

June 16, 2008

Are men more sensitive?

Filed under: life,My Musing Moments — Cris @ 23:19
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I told you I am going to come back to dwell a little more on talking without thinking. I am an expert in that field and experts always need to show off their expertise!

Sometimes telling something you’d think people would laugh at or maybe pass off as just another statement has a far greater effect – and in an unpleasant way. And with my expertise, I have made this possible quite a few number of times. Surprisingly most of it was with the male gender. So it makes one think. Are men in fact more sensitive?

Sensitivity is actually a better version of narrow mindedness. When you say someone is narrow minded, you say it cause you don’t like them for that. But sensitivity, more than often, passes off as a desirable characteristic. I have seen women fascinated by their men making a big deal of the “itsy bitsy little things” cause they are “so sweetly sensitive”.

And then again there is a whole new meaning to sensitivity – that’s when someone is sensitive to the changes/progress or whatever you wanted someone to be sensitive about. Here, it’s another word for noticing things, you wanted noticed.

With people you assume to have a great sense of humor, you take a liberty to crack the lamest jokes known to mankind. And then it turns out, the sense of humor is limited to a certain set of jokes, whose criteria of qualification you have no way of guessing. So you learn only when you make a mistake. And what you learn is to just keep your mouth shut when you feel an urge to become the 21st century Charlie Chaplin.

I realize that what someone thinks is funny, need not be so to someone else. But still you have kept each acquaintance at a comfort level and assume a few things about them. The problem arises when the casual lines of innocent mirth unintentionally hits a wrong chord. You can’t help feeling like the wrongly accused trying to plead for mercy, in vain. Well ok that’s too strong but it is the same kind of wronged feeling you get.

There are things you say in anger/frustration, which you know would not be taken well. But that’s a totally different story.

All said and done, I somehow have drawn the conclusion men are actually more sensitive and need to be dealt with caution 😀
Gulp I can see a loud outburst coming!

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17 Comments »

  1. I read somewhere on this blog about Martians and thought that you had come from Mars. Well I am sure of it now – you are from Mars. Show me a man more sensitive than you are and I will show you 5 women each for each of these men who are more sensitive than all of these men 🙂

    Comment by Minking Than — June 16, 2008 @ 23:31 | Reply

  2. @Minking Than, This is what I meant! Men are even sensitive to being called sensitive 😀

    Comment by Cris — June 16, 2008 @ 23:41 | Reply

  3. You caught me there. Now I can’t fight because if I do, I will justify your argument and if I don’t, you have already won your argument. It is a lost cause. Now some girl will have to take this up against your argument.
    I sometimes fall for this kind of traps. Hmm… Better be careful next time 😐

    Comment by Minking Than — June 16, 2008 @ 23:49 | Reply

  4. 🙂 Crissie sissiee..
    “Men are MORE sensitive..”
    Thats from your point of view.. To be broad, from a girls point of view. For us the guys, Girls seems to be more sensitive. And thats the reason why it flames a fight every time this topic comes on a blog or forum.
    I like to think it this way,
    When a guy talks to a girl , the silliest joke from the girl ‘may’ hurt him as it is from an opposite gender. The same is for girls when some guy says something. The thing is , human mind is biased to genders. A guy-girl talk will be never taken as casual as a girl-girl or guy-guy talk no matter how close friends they are! 🙂
    So the thing is relative : for a girl , guys seems to be sensitive. And for guys, girls are more sensitive…
    I think i need a nobel prize 😀

    Comment by Srijith — June 17, 2008 @ 13:32 | Reply

  5. @Sreejith – That was a good exposition on the topic. ‘A guy-girl talk will be never taken as casual as a girl-girl or guy-guy talk no matter how close friends they are!’ – reminded me of “When Harry met Sally” 😀

    Comment by Minking Than — June 17, 2008 @ 14:34 | Reply

  6. [Sensitivity is actually a better version of narrow mindedness]….nice 🙂

    Comment by Gov — June 17, 2008 @ 18:25 | Reply

  7. Another of “Which comes first – hen or an egg?” Can continue arguments for ever! 😀

    Comment by sajith — June 17, 2008 @ 20:51 | Reply

  8. @Minking Than, LOL. By the way, so you are not too out of touch with movies!
    @Srijith, I will donate one of those prizes from my collection in the future ;-). Good point, though I dont totally agree with the last part – about guy-girl talks never coming as easy as girl-girl or guy-guy talks.
    @Gov, hehe
    @sajith, mmm I see the connection 🙂

    Comment by Cris — June 18, 2008 @ 14:28 | Reply

  9. There are degrees of sensitivity, aren’t there, regardless of gender? However, if a girl is too sensitive we tend to call her precious or a bit of a princess, but if a bloke is too sensitive we say that he’s being a sook or a wimp. Or maybe these are Australian colloquiallisms? None of them are complimentary.

    At least society in general has got over the SNAG tag (Sensitive New Age Guy) as a derogatory statement (I think) and it’s okay for a guy to be considerate and sensitive to others, and not have to act like a Neanderthal brute … all the time.

    Comment by Paul Burman — June 18, 2008 @ 15:55 | Reply

  10. @Cris – No I haven’t exactly been living on Pluto all my life 🙂
    @Paul – Isn’t the sensitivity you mention in the second half of your comment another sensitivity? For example I am sensitive to others’ emotions and do not like hurting people. On the contrary you could try to provoke me with all the worst expletives you can think of and still be not able to evoke any response from me. The first part would qualify me as sensitive in one aspect and the second would qualify as not at all sensitive in another aspect. The presence of the former and the lack of the latter are good. What say?

    Comment by Minking Than — June 18, 2008 @ 23:29 | Reply

  11. @Paul, I always thought sensitive men were more popular around the world. And sensitivity sometimes come disturbing when you cant afford to say anything without thinking first.
    @Minking Than, welcome to Planet E 🙂 Wow thats complex but I got it after a half dozen reads :-D. I think Paul was talking about the first kind of sensitivity. Which makes my comment immaterial now!

    Comment by Cris — June 19, 2008 @ 14:57 | Reply

  12. Yep, definitely differing degrees of sensitivity—a spectrum of sensitivity—where it might be regarded as a positive quality at one end and a negative quality at the other. If you feel like you’re ‘walking on eggshells’ in talking to someone, because their sensitivity might lead them into taking amiss anything you say, this is a negative … and we tend to avoid talking to those people after a while. Whilst those who are aware of other people’s (our own) feelings and needs are great to be with because they make us feel special. Whilst I hate generalising, for the sake of your original post, I’m going to do it: I feel that significantly more females occupy the extreme polarities (are the most easily offended, at one end, as well as being the most nurturing, at the other), but that, with changing notions of masculinity, there are increasingly more males migrating towards the polarities.

    Comment by Paul Burman — June 19, 2008 @ 15:36 | Reply

  13. @Paul, Well said! Though its going against my post and I dont like generalizations, I will let it go cause it sounds alright when you put it that way 🙂

    Comment by Cris — June 19, 2008 @ 22:08 | Reply

  14. I don’t see a difference in gender towards sensitivity some is more some less. The fact is that both are sensitive but towards different things. If you don’t agree with me try provoking the opposite gender you know and you will know the difference. [:D]

    Comment by anon — August 23, 2008 @ 09:56 | Reply

  15. @anon, hmm I was just taking the general statistics. Havent gone into the specifics. Maybe you have a point, am not sure I agree though. My stand is still that men are more sensitive towards all things on earth 😀

    Comment by Cris — August 23, 2008 @ 20:52 | Reply

  16. Men are more adventurous they try to have a first hand on any earthly thing so can we relate there first response as sensitivity !!

    Comment by anon — August 24, 2008 @ 11:56 | Reply

  17. @anon, reasons uncared for, I see we have agreed on the fact. Men are more sensitive.

    Comment by Cris — August 26, 2008 @ 03:09 | Reply


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