Story of a lost journalist

May 31, 2008

Parents

Filed under: life — Cris @ 23:30

Kevin, a 14 year old boy, ducked under his car when his Mom takes him to school and proceeds to go to the school with him to enter her new job there at the Principal’s office. Another time, there is a mock fire drill in the school and he hides behind his friend before his Mom spots him and shouts “Yoohooo hullo Kevin” and smiles. Kevin goes red with embarrassment.

The above lines are from a TV sitcom, The Wonder Years. But then we may, many of us, have gone through similar situations. 

Why do kids, when they grow up, feel embarrassed about parents? Not about what they are or how they are, but just being around them in public places? They feel they are too grown up to be under the eyes and nose of their parents. I remember a few instances. Mom used to take me to school first day of every year. 7th grade came and my class was on the third floor. She took me there, watched the railings and gave me instructions not to stand close to it, along with a few other not-to-dos. I got the same color on my cheeks Kevin did and tried to become invisible. Of course I stayed visible.

Kids get this being laughed at feeling and every eye in this world at them. It could be a common thing. I am not sure. And I have no idea why it should be so. Like Paul (Kevin’s friend) tells Kevin “So she wanted to say hi to you when she saw you. What’s wrong in that?”

Nothing is wrong in that. In fact there is nothing warmer. It is an uncontrolled affection without any care about the whats and whys of the world. It is the kind of affection that only cares for one thing – the child.

[sleeping-child.mp3]

Advertisements

15 Comments »

  1. Some parents are like that, they are very affectionate and their children forever remains ‘children’ in their sights. They will probably worry about their children and look into their matters irrespective of whether their children needs them or not. Their children never grows up in their eyes. I would say a lot of parents are, to some extent, like that. Some however accepts (probably painfully) the decision of their children to not allow them to take care of them or to look into their issues. Some would keep going. I guess it depends a lot on the children too.

    Comment by Minking Than — May 31, 2008 @ 23:52 | Reply

  2. @Minking Than, true parents differ. Some let their kids be on their own very early in life, some are over protective but all the time they care and worry. Generally. I cant say for all, now that we have murderer parents in the country.

    Comment by Cris — June 1, 2008 @ 00:04 | Reply

  3. Sooo very true cris! When we grow up; the feeling within us grows that we could handle things independently and then the care/affection of parents in public places is felt as a dent on our new gained independence and maturity! Nothing odd…parents feel that the child is not old enough to meet challenges alone and the child feels that he/she is well capable to meet them alone….

    Comment by Sajith — June 1, 2008 @ 00:07 | Reply

  4. @Sajith, the point is we dont mind being pampered over or any display of emotions as long as its in home and not in public. So its not really about feeling independent, its about what others see – that makes it more pathetic doesnt it?

    Comment by Cris — June 1, 2008 @ 00:16 | Reply

  5. My mom says…’how ever big u act like ur that little naughty guy running from room to room in my mind’….and im sure to hear this same dialog when im 50 too. We are always kids for them 🙂
    And true I too hand my inhibitions when they show their over protectiveness in public, but these days im enjoying it, the luxury of irresponsibility 🙂

    Comment by Gov — June 1, 2008 @ 00:16 | Reply

  6. True Cris; Maybe they are soo affectionate towards us that they forget that we are not in the comforts of the home…..Anyways good writeup cris!

    Comment by Sajith — June 1, 2008 @ 00:23 | Reply

  7. Hey it might be the generation gap too. It might always have been like this in the past – over-protective and over-affectionate parents – evolutionary advantages. BTW I believe a clean parent-child talk at some point of life might move category 1 parents to category 2 parents I described above.

    Comment by Minking Than — June 1, 2008 @ 00:48 | Reply

  8. I feel clear parent-child talk is more with daughter-mother these days.Intentions-with a pinch of spying into her life?just an observation,may be100% wrong 😉

    Comment by Gov — June 1, 2008 @ 01:27 | Reply

  9. Why is that not possible with son-father? – “Dad – I am old enough to take care of myself. You don’t have to look after me like that anymore”.

    Comment by Minking Than — June 1, 2008 @ 01:37 | Reply

  10. What I am saying is, these days’ mothers keep intense friendly relation with their daughter and one of the motives behind this free talk between them is that to make sure their daughter doesn’t hide any thing from them. It’s a cautious and deliberate step from mother’s side to have a complete monitoring of her every day life just to make sure that she is safely away from the many worldly traps around. So the point is free talk many a time is espionage missions due to over protection

    Comment by Gov — June 1, 2008 @ 09:51 | Reply

  11. @Minking Than, my point as I mentioned above is that most kids do not mind over protective parents as long as the overprotection activities are done within the household and not in public places.

    @Gov, you are 99% wrong. Mother knows well, daughter talks only if she wants to, so no hope of getting out anything of her private life there. And the free talk would never work in those lines when the first hint of parent-sneeking/controlling is out in the open.

    Comment by Cris — June 1, 2008 @ 12:16 | Reply

  12. Seems like you have been hijacked 😉 by your sweet momma 😉

    Comment by Gov — June 1, 2008 @ 12:57 | Reply

  13. >>Why do kids, when they grow up, feel embarrassed about parents?
    Why do parents, when they grow old, feel embarrassed about their Children ?

    Comment by manu — June 1, 2008 @ 18:34 | Reply

  14. @Gov, on the contrary she has been “hijacked” as you put it, by her sweet daughter – me 🙂
    @manu, I didnt know they did

    Comment by Cris — June 1, 2008 @ 19:57 | Reply

  15. It is unfortunate when someone does feel embarrassed or uncomfortable by the expression of affection or care from their parents, I am always comfortable and never embarrassed when my Amma says to me to take care while walking on the road, or when riding a two wheeler or even anything which come out of her caring heart..When we walk in a Crowded place I holds her hand or holds her close to me she used to do the same when I was a Kid, Sometimes she used to ask me.. “Don’t you feel embarrassed to hold my hand and to walk with this oldie.. I know most of my Friend’s and Colleague’s Son does”. and when I say ‘No’ She will say..,, “You are a Big Man Now and you are holding the Hand of an Oldie… If you keep doing so Girls will stop Looking at you” and she will smile… and Once from My Heart with Filled eyes I looked at her and told ” No Matter What No Matter Where.. You are always My Mother..”

    Comment by Javed Miandad — January 31, 2012 @ 15:05 | Reply


RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URI

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Blog at WordPress.com.

%d bloggers like this: