Story of a lost journalist

April 23, 2008


Filed under: life,My Musing Moments — Cris @ 00:42
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I was discussing with a friend about the West and the East and how we are all really just humans of the same world. So my friend was telling me the good things he had observed there in the West (he is staying in US now). One of them was about how everyone in the street or any place you go to is always nice to you; they smile and greet you whether you know them or not. I remembered telling the same thing to Amma (my mother) after a little ATM-incident we had today evening.

Amma and I had gone and stood outside an ATM counter and waited for our turn to go in. There were a couple of people ahead of us and in a few minutes we were just outside the door with a small queue behind us. A middle-aged lady walked suddenly from the street and barged her way into the room. I was on a call but I hung up, and feeling angry at this unstopped interference told her to please follow the queue. She gave her sweetest about-to-lie smile and said “Oh I was here before”. I let her go in and Amma said she saw the lady walking from the distant road down the street. I said “Its ok we can’t fight her now”.

She put her head out and asked me, her tone a trifle short of barking, how to insert the card. I told her which way it should go in and ‘bang’, she slammed the door on my face. Forget thanks, there was no attempt to smile or even remove the frown that had replaced her smile now. I felt sure she had an inborn talent when it came to scowls and frowns. In a few seconds she got out and walked away. I suppose she didn’t get the card in and seemed to believe the whole world had done something to stop her from her card-insertion activities.

More things came up as my friend talked about people in cars stopping for pedestrians to cross roads there while I remembered an auto rickshaw driver I happened to ride with, pressing the accelerator hard as he saw a girl trying to cross a busy road. This was, when we were waiting for the green signal in a traffic jam.

I know if we brought up more topics – of marriages, of divorces, of attachments and commitments, we might have different stories to talk of. But these everyday attitudes in life are really so important, all the good things in the long run we might project to our credit is belittled. Consideration and respect are qualities every human being should give another; it’s not a family-reserved or elders-only thing.



  1. Hi..I am in the US and have to say there are people who act like that autorickshaw driver- speed up when they see a pedestrian. Sure, more people stop than not, but plenty don’t…
    Though having had lived in India.. one thing I can appreciate and like in US is that people (for the most part) do stand in lines and wait their turn, without being handed numbers….
    Nice post, thanks for sharing…

    Comment by Jennifer — April 23, 2008 @ 07:41 | Reply

  2. Well, at times, being polite and well behaved can land you in trouble here in tvm. Try ‘Excuse Me’ in a restaurant. NO waiters would even look at you. Instead try hissing like a snake. They would run to you. i had another experience in office where we hold the door open for the person coming right opposite you. After a few seconds, you wd realize that you are to stand there holding the door for 100s of people who are to follow (who do not have any manners and wont even nod at you)..

    Comment by Prem — April 24, 2008 @ 23:17 | Reply

  3. I moved to the US

    Comment by rose — April 26, 2008 @ 04:52 | Reply

  4. @Jennifer thanks to you too for sharing that
    @Prem I know I have seen that but hopefully if we went on being polite, people will begin to like it
    @rose, not a bad move

    Comment by Cris — April 27, 2008 @ 08:33 | Reply

  5. We can not talk and change their attitude but we can show them the right attitude through our deeds.
    “Be the change you want to see in the world”.- Mahatma Gandhi.

    Comment by Javed Miandad — January 24, 2012 @ 04:15 | Reply

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